Kim and Jamal | 90 Day: The Single Life | TLC
“I don’t regret what I did,” Kim says quietly, almost like the words still taste heavy in her mouth. “But I’m not happy with what I did either.”
In that sentence is a whole storm.
Because when she talks about it, you can feel the weight of motherhood that never fully disappears—even when the baby doesn’t stay. She’s not just describing an old memory. She’s describing the kind of pain that comes from love so real it hurts, and a decision so final it changes your life forever.
“Because you’re bringing these beautiful beings into this world,” she continues, voice steady but eyes intense, “and you feel that motherly love… that maternal thing. And knowing what you’re doing—knowing you’re giving them up for adoption—probably one of the hardest things any birth mother has to go through.”
It’s not the kind of confession people make lightly. It’s the kind they carry. The kind that follows them into years they thought they’d already escaped.
And that’s exactly how Kim feels—like something inside her has been dimming for a long time.
Then, the scene shifts in a way that feels almost dramatic on purpose—like life is forcing her to stand up and show you she’s still here.
Kim is 55, from San Diego, California, and for years she’s been down on herself. Not just a little tired. Not just “having a rough patch.” She’s been fighting an invisible battle she never fully let anyone see.
But then she decides something.
She doesn’t just try to improve her life—she tries to reclaim the version of herself she thought was gone.
“For the past year,” she says, “I’ve been on this weight loss journey, and I’ve lost 57 lbs to date. And it’s been life-changing.”
The way she talks about it isn’t casual. It’s triumphant.
She has more energy now. She feels like she’s “tapping into this young, more adventurous Kim again.” And suddenly her life isn’t just survival—it’s possibility.
But just when you think this story is about healing, it gets more unpredictable, because Kim’s past isn’t quiet—and neither is her personality.
When she was nineteen, she joined the military. Not the easy kind. Not the “safe” kind. She trained as a sharpshooter—someone who didn’t just follow instructions, but mastered danger. She jumped out of planes. “I was the bad back then,” she says, and the way she delivers it makes you realize: she isn’t apologizing for who she was. She’s reminding herself she’s still capable of being fearless.
And now—thirty years later—she’s trying to get her groove back.
Especially in dating.
Because this is where the tension really starts: Kim isn’t looking for just anyone. She’s looking for honesty. For confidence. For someone who can handle her energy without trying to control it.
So there she is—on a date—inside a setting that feels oddly symbolic, like the story is daring her to stay brave.
And right away, sparks fly—because the date isn’t delicate. It’s loud. It’s competitive. It’s playful… and maybe a little too sharp.
There’s a moment where someone instructs: “Get around to the left. I’m going to go to the right.”
Not “be careful.” Not “relax.”
Right and left. Move. Stay alert.
Then Kim drops her presence like a headline: her name is Kim, she’s 55, she’s not here to shrink. And when the date starts, it’s clear this isn’t a typical romantic dinner.
It’s more like a test.
Someone cracks a joke about her being a “gun” woman, and Kim—deadpan—plays right into it. There’s talk about “calling a truce,” and the energy in the room becomes something you can almost taste: the feeling that everyone is acting, measuring, waiting for the other person to slip.
Kim says she’s been casually dating for months, but it’s hard to find a good man in your 50s.
And then—like the universe hears her frustration and decides to add fuel—she says something that sounds like a warning before it becomes a fight.
“I feel like I can see through all your games. And let’s just be honest…”
She pauses, and you can tell she’s about to name the real wound beneath the dating problems.
“…I was with the biggest game player ever in the world.”
That’s the moment the story turns from flirty tension to a full-blown emotional thriller.
She met Usman on social media about five years ago. He was a singer rapper in Nigeria. The connection didn’t start with a handshake. It